Share and Follow
If I was HIV-positive, then I assumed that a good proportion of my friends who had been engaging in visits to backroom bars and the promiscuous lifestyle of the times would be too, and we’d all be in this together.
I realised in time, that getting HIV was a bit of a roll of the dice, not everybody caught the virus from every sexual encounter with an HIV-positive partner and a good percentage of my friends who got tested then came back negative, even though we sometimes had partners in common over the years!
I didn’t have to wait too long to see if this prediction was to come true as, come the mid-80s, friends of mine started to get sick and die one by one.
People you loved and cared for were gone in a weekend, there was so little time to grieve before another friend got sick.
I thought it was my time to go
One battle after another
It was clear the medical staff had educated themselves about the risks and did not want patients to feel stigmatised for having the virus, but that was not the case for a lot of HIV-positive patients across the country, many facing gross overreactions and fear from staff when presenting for treatment.
Then came the medical breakthrough
They are so effective my long-term male partner has never tested HIV-positive and my doctor said he is unlikely to.
Holding on to hope
No one is more surprised than me that Joko and I are still going strong, but it does show that no matter what, HIV does not need not be an obstacle to a long-lasting relationship.
Defying the odds every day since
You loved me for who I am and didn’t judge or censor me because of something in my blood.