A recent publication in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy disclosed the true preferences of individuals when it comes to intimate activities.

Many might presume that the primary delight in engaging in sexual activities with a partner lies in the attainment of satisfaction and pleasure.

However, the responses by the almost 3,000 US adult participants led on that sex means a lot more to them than having that big O moment.

Surprisingly, only 231 participants highlighted that experiencing an orgasm was the pinnacle of their intimate encounters, suggesting a shift away from the notion that successful sexual interactions necessitate simultaneous orgasms for both partners.

Another indicator that hanky panky is not just about performance is that only 241 of the participants revealed that their favorite thing about sex is making their partner feel good — whether it be giving oral sex, observing what their partner enjoys while in the act, and making sure to meet their partner’s sexual needs.

Over 300 US adults appreciate when sex is about love and care. Putting orgasms and meeting sexual needs aside — for these people, they admitted how much they love feeling appreciated, desired and valued during sex.

This group of participants view sex as a way to strengthen an already strong emotional connection between two lovers.

Almost 400 US adults enjoy rolling in the hay because of how it makes them as individuals feel.

While self-pleasure has its benefits, according to Nicole Cirino, M.D., associate professor of psychiatry at OHSU’s Center for Women’s Health, partner sex benefits a person’s self-esteem more.

“Having sex alone through masturbation won’t stimulate the release of as much oxytocin or other mood-boosting hormones as having sex as part of a loving relationship,” says Dr. Cirino.

Continuing up the list of things people love about sex is specific sexual acts. Most of the participants of the study love that sex allows them to be intimatley close with their partner.

Sex allows two people to bond in a very unique way. Skin to skin contact, cuddling, kissing, trying different positions and making eye contact are all ways that can make a couple feel close.

The study also found that people like that engaging in sex allows them to focus on what they’re doing without outside distractions.