Many parents can relate to the experience of having a child who sticks to them like glue, even during trips to the bathroom. This phenomenon has led to the popularization of the term “Velcro kids,” which is creating a buzz in the parenting community. Parents are increasingly turning to social media to share their experiences and seek advice on coping with children who demand constant proximity. Experts are also chiming in on this modern parenting challenge.

One such parent is Frankie Acevedo, a 38-year-old who recently shared his experiences on TikTok. Acevedo revealed that his 5-year-old son insists on being near him at all times, whether he is cooking in the kitchen, relaxing in the backyard, or even when he needs some privacy in the bathroom. His video has garnered close to 3 million views, resonating deeply with parents who face similar situations.

The concept of “Velcro kids” has its roots in the term “Velcro babies,” which describes infants who prefer to be carried and often cry when left alone. This behavior has now extended to older children who exhibit similar attachment tendencies.

Many parents shared their stories in response to Acevedo’s post. One commenter mentioned, “My kids sit outside the bathroom and ask me questions.” Another parent related, “My daughter comes from the living room just to sit on the floor in my room. She doesn’t say anything; she just wants to be in here with me.” These anecdotes highlight the widespread nature of this parenting experience, fostering a sense of community and understanding among those navigating the demands of their Velcro kids.

“My daughter comes from the living room just to sit on the floor in my room. She doesn’t say anything, she just wants to be in here with me,” another wrote.

A third wrote has the “cure for any velcro kid,” “My kids are glued to me until I mention “let’s go for a walk outside and touch some grass” then they’re no longer Velcro.”

For Acevedo and many other millennial parents, this kind of closeness isn’t a problem, it’s intentional.

“Growing up, it wasn’t like that for me,” Acevedo told USA Today in a recent interview. “We spent most of our time outside or in our rooms, and we weren’t really involved with our parents much. Everyone was pretty much doing their own things.”

Today’s parents are redefining what closeness looks like and social media is helping normalize it. While the term “Velcro parents” isn’t as established as helicopter or gentle parenting, it’s quickly gaining traction among moms and dads who value emotional connection.

“I’m seeing parenting today focus more on curiosity, and trying to understand why the children or child is showing up in the way that they are,” says therapist Elizabeth Schane. “And being able to really enhance emotional intelligence opposed to stuff it and just create rules and compliance.”

Acevedo agrees. “I beat the odds and I’m raising my family completely differently,” he said of overcoming a dysfunctional upbringing.

According to Martha Edwards, director of the Ackerman Institute’s Center for the Developing Child and Family, attachment begins early and it’s vital for healthy development.

“Babies learn early on that if they are distressed, their parent will come and soothe them. This establishes a secure attachment and is essential for proper development,” Edwards said.

But balance matters, too. “If the parent says, ‘just a moment’ and then does come to their baby in a short period of time, the child begins to understand patience,” she explains.

Without that boundary, some children may grow overly dependent. Still, personality plays a big role, some kids are naturally more clingy or cautious. In those cases, Edwards says it’s important for parents to gently encourage exploration and independence.

Interestingly enough, Acevedo says his close bond with his son has had the opposite effect. “He’s the furthest thing from shy,” he told the outlet.

Yet, the one most important aspect of being a velro parent is to find balance. Even parents who love being around their kids all the time can feel overwhelmed. Experts agree that parents need time for themselves and setting loving boundaries is key.