“Somehow, I was ‘worthy’ of respect for spending my night out at a nightclub with someone in a wheelchair … when I just wanted to go to a Taylor Swift disco with my boyfriend.”

Will playing AFL Wheelchair for Essendon. Source: Supplied

Mia is also disabled and has a wheelchair, but doesn’t need to use it all the time.

Speaking to his experience dating as a visibly disabled person Will said: “I’ve actually had someone say to me: ‘how do you have sex if your penis is disabled?'”

‘It can be a little bit emasculating’

“I was like: ‘No, you’re a little guy’.”

Shontel is 20cm taller than her boyfriend Jacob. Source: Supplied

However, she soon questioned whether their height difference was a good enough reason to not be with him.

“If it makes it emasculating, then I guess you’ve just got to find the right person that doesn’t make it emasculating for yourself.”

‘Not quite accepted’ in either community

He says that since they came out as trans, they have felt unwelcome at some queer events — being taken for a cisgender, straight couple.

“So, there’s no undoing the ‘taboo-ness’ of it all.”

Haylo and Elyse say they have experienced unwelcome attitudes in queer spaces as a heterosexual, trans couple. Source: Supplied

Unlearning the taboo

“We hug when we’re laying down together … You don’t notice a difference sitting next to each other on a train. There’s no difference at all.”