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Hailey Glassman opened up about the rule she shares with her husband, Rubin, and confirmed that their relationship is “not sexual” following Tuesday night’s episode of The Real Housewives of New York City, during which she questioned their future together.
After Erin Lichy, 39, described Hailey’s arrangement with Rubin as “fun” and Carole Radziwill, 63, suggested that Hailey, 39, could be working through unresolved issues involving her mother, Lauren Glassman, Hailey explained the boundaries of her marriage and revealed how she and Rubin first met.
“The rule was I’m not allowed to date men,” Hailey said during the November 10 episode of the RHONY: After Show.
Describing their marriage, she added, “It’s not sexual. It’s more of, like, a comfort, family, best friend. Lifelong. I’ve known him since we were children.”
Hailey said she and Rubin first met as children at sailing camp.
“We met when he was 12 years old on Martha’s Vineyard,” she recalled.
The pair grew increasingly close over the years.
“When I wasn’t doing okay, he was like my best friend and, like, vice versa. So we, like, grew up in a weird way together,” she explained. “I loved the way that he saw me in his eyes … and had such an innocent view when I was so damaged. So we got married, and I do have so much love for Rubin. I love Rubin. He’s my family.”
Even so, Hailey acknowledged that she is no longer fully satisfied with the marriage.
“Here I am, you know, middle-aged, and it’s just what worked back then and what I needed is not what I need now. I’ve grown. The difference is he’s stayed the same,” she said.
After Erin remarked that it sounded “fun that [Hailey] gets to have two apartments and multiple suitors,” Carole connected Hailey’s situation to her relationship with her mother.
“I feel like she just wants to be, like, loved. Even what she told [Erin] about her mom. She was parentified. Is that what they call it? Like, she was a child but acting like the parent,” Carole said. “I’m sure her mother loves her, but she didn’t feel it, and I think maybe that’s what she’s kind of looking for.”
Hailey also appeared on Watch What Happens Live on Tuesday, where she discussed her relationship with her mother and confirmed that they are no longer in contact.
“We’re in no contact, and you know what? … Sometimes you have to just … cut some poison out,” she said, while denying that RHONY had caused the estrangement.
“It’s a complicated relationship. Sometimes one’s the mother, one’s the daughter when it should’ve been the reverse role, and that’s all,” Hailey explained.
The Real Housewives of New York City season 16 airs Tuesdays at 8/7c on Bravo.