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Elliot Page has revealed he had a secret relationship with Kate Mara after he came out as gay in 2014 – and while she was dating Max Minghella.
The Oscar-nominated Juno star, 36, who was once known as Ellen Page and came out as transgender in 2020, details in his memoir Pageboy how he and Kate, 40, struck up a romance as he filmed X-Men: Days of Future Past and that Kate was ‘in love with two people.’
Kate and Max went their separate ways in 2014 after four years of dating. She is now married to actor Jamie Bell, with whom she shares two children.
In an excerpt from his memoir, obtained by People, Page writes: ‘The first person I fell for after my heart was broken was Kate Mara. She had a boyfriend at the time, the lovely and talented Max Minghella.’
‘This was right after I’d come out as gay [in 2014] and it was a time of exploration and also heartbreak. I think my relationship, or whatever you want to call it with Kate, very much encapsulates a certain dynamic that I consistently found myself in, which was falling for people that — I think a lot of us do this — who aren’t fully available.
Heartbreak: Elliot Page has revealed he had a secret relationship with Kate Mara after he came out as gay in 2014 – and while she was dating Max Minghella (pictured 2017)
Former couple: Kate and Max went their separate ways in 2014 after four years of dating (pictured 2014)
‘And the sort of safety in that and the highs and the lows and the serotonin bump, and then it goes away. And I think that is definitely a pattern in my life.”
‘I think the love and care that we have for each other is it’s very own special thing. Separate from the intimacy that I write about.’
Elliot said Max was supportive of Kate exploring their relationship -which was kept a secret from the world and says Kate told him: ‘I never thought I could be in love with two people and now I know I can.’
The pair played a couple in movie My Days of Mercy which premiered in 2017 and was released in 2019 – this was made after their romance.
Page added that Kate has read the book and will appear at a book event in LA in June to promote it.
Elliot publicly came out as a transgender man in December 2020 but revealed he began ‘feeling like a boy’ from the age of nine.
In an extract shared by People, Elliot recalled being in a gay bar just a few months before the premiere of his breakout 2008 movie Juno.
At the bar he met a woman named Paula, who unwittingly helped him address the feelings of ‘shame’ he had.
Candid: The Oscar-nominated Juno star, 36, who was once known as Ellen Page and came out as transgender in 2020 , details in his memoir Pageboy how he and Kate, 40, struck up a romance and that Kate was ‘in love with two people’ (pictured 2017)
Ex; Elliot said Max was supportive of Kate exploring their relationship -which was kept a secret from the world and says Kate told him: ‘I never thought I could be in love with two people and now I know I can’ (pictured 2014)
Moved on: Kate is now married to actor Jamie Bell and the pair share two children (pictured January 2023)
He wrote: ‘Dancing, sweat dripping down my back, down my chest. I watched Paula’s hair twist and bounce as she moved effortlessly, chaotic but controlled, sensual and strong.
‘I would catch her looking at me, or was it the other way around? We wanted to be caught. Deer in the headlights. Startled, but not breaking.’
Having asked if he could kiss her, he continued: ‘And then I did. In a queer bar. In front of everyone around us. I was coming to understand what all those poems were about, what all the fuss was.
‘Everything was cold before, motionless, emotionless. Any woman I had loved hadn’t loved me back, and the one who maybe had, loved me the wrong way.
‘But here I was, on a dance floor with a woman who wanted to kiss me and the antagonizing, cruel voice that flooded my head whenever I felt desire was silent.’
Elliot also looked at how the bar helped him address his feelings of shame.
He penned: ‘Shame had been drilled into my bones since I was my tiniest self, and I struggled to rid my body of that old toxic and erosive marrow.
‘But there was a joy in the room, it lifted me, forced a reaction in the jaw, an uncontrolled, steady smile.’
Opening up: Elliot publicly came out as a transgender man in December 2020 but revealed he began ‘feeling like a boy’ from the age of nine
Elliot was paid ‘north of $3M’ to write his 288-page tell-all, which Flatiron Books will publish on June 6.
The two-time Emmy-nominated producer came out as a lesbian in 2014 during a speech at the Human Rights Campaign’s ‘Time to Thrive’ conference in Las Vegas.
Elliot kicks off his nine-date international book tour on June 6 at The Town Hall in Midtown Manhattan, and future dates will be announced soon.
It’s unclear if Elliot is still dating non-binary comedian Mae Martin after the pair got matching tattoos and suited up for the 11th Annual LACMA Art + Film Gala on November 5.
Elliot’s divorce from Canadian dancer Emma Portner was finalized in 2021 after two years of marriage.