Tamzin Outhwaite has revealed her eldest child is transgender. 

The actress, 54, is mother to Florence, 17, and Marnie, 12, with her ex-husband Tom Ellis who she split from in 2014.

But in an appearance on the Parenting Hell podcast, Tamzin told how her eldest child now goes by ‘Flo’ and identifies as a boy. 

‘I’ve got two kids. I did have two daughters and now I have a son and a daughter,’ she said. ‘That’s quite easy for me to say now, but it wasn’t maybe six or seven years ago.’

Tamzin has never spoken about Flo’s identity before now but said he first came out as trans when he was ‘about 10 or 11’. 

Tamzin Outhwaite has revealed her eldest child Flo, 17, is transgender (pictured with her two children Flo and Marnie, 12)

Tamzin said: ‘I’ve got two kids. I did have two daughters and now I have a son and a daughter. That’s quite easy for me to say now, but it wasn’t maybe six or seven years ago’

‘The maddest thing is I suppose that it’s not the most interesting thing about him,’ she said. ‘He’s an incredibly funny intelligent boy, and I’m watching him grow into a wonderful human who’s very talented.

‘To see him thriving is just nothing but relief and joy for me really because there were some dark times.’ 

Tamzin recalled the period when Flo first came out as trans, which she remembers as a ‘very distressing time’. 

‘Until you’re going through it yourself with your child, it’s difficult to judge the situation,’ she said.

‘Initially, I would say, don’t be ridiculous. I didn’t say don’t be ridiculous but my mind went, “that’s ludicrous”. 

‘Working back from that with talking, family therapy, therapy on Flo’s side as well, talking with family and realising you’re not alone. 

‘I think if you push back on a kid, they’ll want to do the opposite of what their parent says. I didn’t say “you can’t be that”, but it was a distressing time. We worked together as a family and with outside help.’    

Rob Beckett, who co-hosts the podcast with Josh Widdicombe, said: ‘You can’t do everything to make them happy. It’s in them and there’s other things at play. Having to let things take their course…’

Tamzin shares her two children with her ex-husband Tom Ellis who she split from in 2014 (pictured together in 2012) 

Tamzin told how her ex-boyfriend of six years, Tom Child, is her ‘best mate’ and still part of her children’s lives 

‘Yeah,’ Tamzin responded. ‘Time and action, but also being sensitive and, you know…. The whole LGBT community get a bit of a hard rap at the moment – it’s quite tough, I think. It is a hot topic.’

Josh said: ‘it’s almost like you’ve been in sync with that topic becoming a public debate,’ referring to the prominent discussion of trans issues in the media. 

‘Kind of, yeah. Every situation is completely different, every child is different,’ Tamzin said. ‘It really is less than one per cent of the population. 

‘There’s this big up in arms thing. It’s not that common, just because…. But I’m just so happy for him. 

‘I’m happy that we’re in a place and he’s in a place that he is just…. I mean, he’s an incredible actor. He’s desperate to be a comedy writer. I was only allowed to talk about it on this podcast.’

Rob then asked Tamzin how she feels about now being a mother to teenagers instead of ‘little ones’. 

‘I would say that we have become a lot closer over the last few years, and I think that that happens naturally before they fly the nest,’ Tamzin said.

Tamzin recalled the period when Flo first came out as trans, which she remembers as a ‘very distressing time’ (pictured in May 2025) 

‘And then when they go, they go for a while and then they come back again. So I am in the stage knowing that I am very aware of the amount of years I might have left with them. 

‘The amount of holidays I might have left. The amount of summers, you know. I’m so aware of all of that.’

Tamzin told how her ex-boyfriend of six years, Tom Child, is still her ‘best mate’ and he is always in and out of the house.

‘[He] has been around for the whole of like Flo’s transitioning period, for the whole of Marnie becoming a girl that was discovering all sorts of stuff and boys, and so he is still a member of the family. We’ve been not together for over a year. 

‘The kids often say to him ‘When you meet someone, or even if you have, how are you going to explain this situation to your girlfriends?’