• Tems has revealed the key red flags that immediately disqualify a potential partner, emphasizing that anyone who is not friendly or genuinely curious about their significant other has no business in a relationship.
• Speaking in an interview with Complex, she stressed that a lack of interest undermines the purpose of dating and advised fans to end any relationship where their partner shows no desire to truly know them.
• Tems added that although she considers herself a “lover girl,” past experiences have made her more cautious as she now prioritizes self-love.

Temilade Openiyi, better known by her stage name Tems, who has earned a Grammy for her music, recently revealed what she considers to be significant warning signs in a potential romantic relationship. According to her, a lack of warmth and inquisitiveness are major deal-breakers.

During an interview with Complex, a renowned American media outlet, the artist behind the hit “Love Me Jeje” emphasized that the fundamental purpose of a partnership is undermined if one party lacks friendliness or genuine interest in the other.

Tems shared what she looks for in a relationship:

“In my view, a partner who doesn’t make an effort to be your friend is a major red flag. Similarly, someone who isn’t curious about getting to know you also raises alarms. It begs the question, what’s the point of being together if there’s no desire to understand each other?”

She offered straightforward guidance to her audience:

“If he or she doesn’t want to know more about you, end the relationship.”

Tems admitted that while she is a “lover girl,” she is trying to be careful due to past experiences and is currently prioritizing self-love.

In other news…. A group of armed men launched a brutal attack on St. Andrews Anglican Church, Isiokwe, in the Lilu community of Ihiala Local Government Area of Anambra State, resulting in two fatalities, including the wife of the church priest.

The incident occurred in the early hours of Sunday, December 7, 2025, as worshippers were preparing for the start of Sunday service. The attackers opened fire indiscriminately, also burning vehicles and partially setting fire to the church building, including the cleric’s apartment.

An eyewitness detailed the attack to Punch:

“A brutal attack occurred at the St. Andrews Anglican Church, Isiokwe in Lilu community of Ihiala LGA in the early hours of Sunday… Unfortunately, they brutally murd£red the wife of the church priest and one other person. They also injured many others, razed down the priest’s house to ashes, burnt down some church vehicles and other church properties, including a part of the main church building.”

Police Condemn “Heinous Act”
The Anambra State Police Command confirmed the attack on Monday, December 8, with the spokesman, SP Tochukwu Ikenga, relaying a statement from the Commissioner of Police, CP Ikioye Orutugu.

The CP strongly condemned the actions:

“The CP states that this heinous and abominable act, committed against innocent worshippers, is not only an assault on the community, but a grave affront to our shared values of peace, sanctity of life, and freedom of worship.”

The Police Command extended sympathies to the families and assured the public that the Joint Security Team has been deployed and intelligence-driven operations intensified to relentlessly hunt down the perpetrators, promising that “no resource will be spared” in the investigation.