When Ed Sheeran decided to leave his much-loved home in Suffolk and base himself in the United States during his tour, one priority shaped the move: making sure he would still be there to read bedtime stories to his two young daughters.
Friends say the prospect of being thousands of miles from six-year-old Lyra and four-year-old Jupiter was simply too difficult for the singer to contemplate.
Sheeran therefore arranged for his wife, Cherry Seaborn, and their children to join him in Nashville, Tennessee. From there, he could perform at sold-out venues across the US before returning to them by private jet.
His weekend concerts were planned with family life in mind, often leaving a full week between dates. That schedule allowed him to handle his responsibilities as a father while travelling between cities including Boston, Los Angeles and Atlanta. After years of the strain associated with constant touring, the arrangement appeared to offer an ideal balance.
When he first devised the plan, Sheeran could not have known how important that support would become. Its value was especially clear on Saturday night, when he returned to the family’s rented mansion hours after breaking down during a Philadelphia performance and telling fans about the turmoil of the previous five days.
During an emotional address, he said friends and family had abandoned him after he failed to publicly support his tour’s opening act, Macklemore, who had used his performance slot to deliver pro-Palestinian speeches.
“I’m feeling all of my friends and family and people I know abandoned me,” Sheeran told the audience.
He also acknowledged making “mistakes” in the way he dealt with the dispute and admitted he was uncertain whether the tour would continue.
Ed Sheeran became emotional during his Philadelphia concert as he described feeling abandoned by friends and family after not backing support act Macklemore
Ed Sheeran and his wife Cherry Seaborn pictured together at the 2022 BRIT Awards
“When the family move was first planned, it was simply so he could see Cherry and the children most days,” a source close to the singer said. “Ed had no idea this would happen, but it is a relief that they are in the States because, at the moment, Cherry and the girls are the only things putting a smile on his face. They are his sanctuary, and that has proved far more valuable than anyone could have expected.
“The Philadelphia concert was the hardest of his life and this is the biggest challenge he has ever faced. But the thought of returning to Nashville, where his loving family would be waiting, kept him going.”
Friends of the 35-year-old singer have reportedly been increasingly worried about his wellbeing since last week, when billionaire businessman Robert Kraft barred Macklemore from appearing at Gillette Stadium in Foxborough, Massachusetts. Sheeran is a personal friend of Kraft’s and performed at his wedding in 2022.
Kraft, 85, who is Jewish, accused the US rapper of hate speech following two earlier support performances in which Macklemore called for “Free Palestine” and made further comments while displaying images of Gaza.
Macklemore also performed a song dedicated to pro-Palestinian protesters and used the term “genocide” to describe events in Gaza, a characterization rejected by Israel. He said his criticism of Israel was not aimed at “my Jewish brothers and sisters”.
Macklemore was dropped from the tour last Monday, prompting another backlash. Sheeran’s remaining support acts subsequently withdrew in protest, while several other public figures have since entered the debate.
Nadiya Hussain, the television chef and former Great British Bake Off winner, shared a video with her one million Instagram followers accusing Sheeran of displaying “white tears” and presenting himself as “the victim”. In the clip, British therapist Megan Cooper said: “If the tears of Palestinians and black, brown and indigenous communities carried as much gravity, genocide would not happen.”
Welsh singer Charlotte Church also criticised Sheeran, telling the audience at her Cardiff concert on Sunday that he was choosing money over what she considered the right course of action.
“Whilst he has made millions and has an enormous following, he has an enormous platform to do real good in the world. He chose consumerism and capitalism over doing the right thing,” Church said.
She added: “So we say the same thing to Ed Sheeran because f*** the fact [he says] that musicians shouldn’t be involved in politics. F*** that s***. Politics is life.” Church then told Sheeran, “we’re watching you,” repeating the line with her band at least four times before leading the crowd in chants of “Free Palestine”.
Friends of Sheeran were quick to hit back at both women, saying of Nadiya: ‘Hasn’t she got anything better to do?’ and adding of Charlotte: ‘She’s just cross.’
But, make no mistake, the saga has left Sheeran ‘in bits’. One friend tells me: ‘It is something he will never get over. ‘Ed is a people-pleaser, he tries to keep politics out of his singing but this has hit him like a train.’
Although, I’m told, his parents Imogen and John have been ‘propping him up’ as has his brother Matt, a classically trained composer, Sheeran is said to be ‘absolutely furious’ that his estranged cousin Jethro has joined the online pile-on.
Writing under his artist handle Alonestar, the rapper from Bristol dubbed Sheeran a ‘bad human’ and said: ‘I’m ashamed of my cousin Ed. He’s a coward.’
It was Jethro, I understand, whom the singer was referring to when he cited being abandoned by his family in his onstage meltdown. ‘Jethro has been a very difficult issue in the family for quite some time and a bit of a thorn in Ed’s side,’ a source tells me.
‘He seems to throw stones at Ed whenever he gets the chance and has made all sorts of wild allegations over the years. The truth is he’s just jealous and disgruntled.’
The repercussions appear far from over yet.
TV chef and former Great British Bake Off winner Nadiya Hussain shared a video with her one million Instagram followers accusing Sheeran of making himself ‘the victim’ in the row
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Welsh singer Charlotte Church performs a concert on Sunday, where she told fans that Sheeran was putting money ahead of doing the ‘right thing’
Sheeran’s manager Stuart Camp has jetted out to the US to deal with the fallout, while there have been transatlantic Zoom calls between members of his team.
When talking to friends and those around Sheeran, it’s clear his torment is deeply felt.
‘Ed has cried, he’s been angry, he’s been hurt, but more than anything he’s just hugely upset. He can’t believe he has found himself in this position and it feels as though he can’t do right whichever way he turns.
‘He’s been talking a lot to his team, his manager Stuart who he’s very close to and others who are there around him and trying to work out what to do. But it feels as though there just isn’t any solution to keep everyone happy.
‘He’s completely exhausted emotionally. Everyone involved is utterly drained. And every time he tries to make the situation better another celebrity comes out of the woodwork and criticises him. He feels a bit exploited and used by others who seem to be enjoying the publicity at his expense. Some of the comments have come as a real shock. He’s had it from both sides at once.’
So distraught is the star that I’m told he’s considering taking a long break from his music career. Friends tell me that all he wants to do is ‘stick on a baseball cap and pretend he’s not famous’ for as long as he possibly can.
He has previously taken himself off to far-flung places – such as Japan and Antarctica (where he and Cherry conceived their first daughter, Lyra Antarctica) as well as backpacking across Australia and New Zealand. Friends say this crisis has deepened his resolve to do something similar again.
‘He has made a pattern of taking himself away for long periods during his career, especially since starting a family.
‘When he travels he often doesn’t have any contact with the rest of the world – he leaves it all behind him and goes away to places that are often quite remote and a million miles away from his daily stresses and the pressure of being famous.
‘He loves nothing more than to put on a baseball cap and go back to being normal Ed, with no showbiz entourage or anything. He likes to go totally off-grid – and he’s never needed it more.’
In the past week, several members of the music industry have got in touch with me to share their views on the crisis.
Some who have spent time with Sheeran and adore him are deeply upset for him. One told me: ‘It’s heartbreaking to hear him like this when none of it is his fault.’
Others, however, have been quick to describe it as a ‘PR disaster’. One senior music executive took the view that Sheeran should have cancelled the 26-date tour.
‘He was absolutely stupid if he thought he was going to get away unscathed with this. If I was advising him, I would have told him to cancel it.’
However sources close to Sheeran have been quick to explain that this was simply not feasible. I’m told that with around 150 people employed by the tour as crew, cancelling the remaining North American gigs would have cost Sheeran in the region of £30million because he would not have been covered by insurance.
A source says: ‘People don’t seem to understand what the reality of cancelling those gigs would have actually looked like and cost Ed personally. There was no definitive need to cancel the shows, so no insurance company is going to pick up the bill, and the bill for hosting them is huge.
‘On top of that there were about 750,000 tickets which would need to be reimbursed and all sorts of other upfront staging and transport costs. In the end a rough estimate would have meant Ed personally becoming liable for around £30million. Even someone as successful as him isn’t in a position to pull that sort of money out of nowhere.
‘The artists speaking out have no clue how many people are relying on Ed for their livelihoods and he really respects that – he understands this isn’t just about him.’
Pro-Palestinian protesters wave flags and hold signs during a protest before a Sheeran concert in Philadelphia last week
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While Sheeran currently feels as if he is, as one friend says, ‘public enemy number one’, he has been touched by support from some of his long-term allies, including Elton John, to whom he speaks via video call on his iPad (Ed doesn’t own a phone) most days.
‘Ed has amazing friends in the business who totally get it. Nobody is closer to him than Elton John. They speak every single day via iPad, often video calls, just to chat and keep in touch. He’s a very valuable mentor.’
As for his long-standing friend Taylor Swift, her PR didn’t respond to repeated requests when I asked whether she had been in contact with her fellow singer.
A-list support aside, those in Sheeran’s camp know they are in for an arduous journey before they reach the end of the tour on December 11 in Mexico City.
This Friday, he will play at Robert Kraft’s Gillette Stadium in Foxborough, Massachusetts, where there are likely to be huge protests.
Those close to the star fear the performance – at the arena which first banned Sheeran’s controversial support act – will only reignite the row. One said: ‘Ed is terrified of what will be that night.
‘But what will undoubtedly get him through will be the thought of Cherry and his little girls waiting for him when he gets home.’