Dear Abby: My partner and I have been together for over five years. He has two adult children. I recently discovered that I am pregnant, even though at 43 years old, I never imagined having a child. Nonetheless, the news has filled me with joy. However, I am feeling apprehensive about revealing this to my partner as I am uncertain of his reaction. When should I inform him? – Pregnant Pause in New York

Dear Pregnant: You should tell your partner about your pregnancy immediately so that both of you can start planning for the arrival of the new baby. If he reacts positively, it will mark the beginning of a joyful journey together. In the event of a negative reaction, considering the financial responsibilities associated with having a baby is crucial. This discussion will help you prepare for the possibility of raising the child independently with some financial assistance from him.

Dear Abby: I am 17 years old, and in six months, I will be turning 18. I am eagerly looking forward to moving out of my home. I have a strained relationship with my mother, with daily arguments stemming from her addiction issues, which make communication challenging. I often feel inadequate and like I am treading carefully to avoid conflict. Although my goal is to leave as soon as possible, I need guidance on coping during these final months living with her. I feel like I am barely hanging on. Can you offer me some advice? – Tortured Teen in Indiana

DEAR TEEN: I am sorry for the stressful situation in which you find yourself. You certainly should extricate yourself as soon as you can. Are there other relatives who might be willing to have you stay with them until you graduate from high school and find a job? If there are, that would be ideal.

If there aren’t, start talking with a trusted teacher or counselor at school and explain what is happening because there may be resources in your community for young people from troubled homes.

DEAR ABBY: I am a retired man who, unfortunately, got caught up in an internet inheritance scam and lost all my money. I’m now broke and in debt. This is the worst thing that could have happened to me. I had to file for bankruptcy (Chapter 13). 

Fortunately, my house is paid for, but I could lose my truck (my only means of transportation) if I can’t keep up with my bankruptcy payments. I have medical issues and take a lot of medication, so I have to get to my doctors’ appointments. The bankruptcy payments are high, and I’m afraid I won’t be able to afford them soon. I was enjoying my retirement, and now I have nothing. I don’t know what to do. What can you suggest? — DETOURED IN WISCONSIN

DEAR DETOURED: I am sorry for your predicament. It may be possible to lower your Chapter 13 bankruptcy payments. If you can’t afford to hire an attorney, contact the Legal Aid Society or a pro bono lawyer and ask for help. The laws can vary from state to state, and an attorney may be able to help you. I wish you success.

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