Inside Gypsy-Rose Blanchard’s Relationship With Ken Urker, the Father of Her Baby

‘You are a danger to yourself and to the people around you.’

Ken Urker sent that warning to his then-fiancée, Gypsy-Rose Blanchard, after she allegedly attacked the headboard of their bed with a kitchen knife during a drunken fit of jealousy while he was away from home last year.

In a disturbing phone call to Amelia Bird, a friend who is still incarcerated, Blanchard reportedly described in detail how she lost her temper after discovering a card Urker allegedly had written to a former girlfriend. The Daily Mail obtained a recording of the conversation.

The account offers a stark look at the former couple’s relationship just days after Urker, 34, was found dead. Authorities continue to investigate the circumstances and cause of his death, and no criminal charges have been filed.

Blanchard, 35, was convicted in 2016 of second-degree murder in the death of her mother, Claudine ‘Dee Dee’ Blanchard, and was released from prison in December 2023. Since Urker’s death, she has publicly suggested that he may have died from an apparent drug overdose linked to cyberbullying.

Those statements have provoked anger among some of Urker’s relatives.

‘The narrative being pushed is suicide, and that is a very hurtful narrative to the family and to anybody who loved him,’ Urker’s sister Autumn told the Daily Mail this week. ‘I’m trying to respect my brother and give him dignity. That’s why I’m being open, because that’s not fair to him.’

In an exclusive interview, a grieving Autumn said she wanted to reveal what she believes Blanchard is like away from the public eye. She said her goals were to protect her 1-year-old niece, Aurora, and draw attention to what she described as ‘targeted attacks’ against her family.

Autumn’s position differs from that of some other relatives. She said family members invited Blanchard to Urker’s viewing and forthcoming funeral because they feared a confrontation could jeopardize their ability to see Aurora.

‘When I spoke with my mother, she was in tears telling me that we have to be nice to Gypsy or she won’t let her see Aurora,’ Autumn said. ‘My mom is a very forgiving person and I’m just not at that stage right now.’

The Daily Mail has reached out to Urker’s mother, Raina Williams, for comment.

Autumn said she was sorry she arrived too late for the viewing, although she said her farewells from the parking lot. She added that she will ‘absolutely’ attend her brother’s funeral and hopes her anger will eventually ease.

Even so, Autumn said she has significant grief and resentment to work through before she can reconcile with Blanchard. She blames Blanchard for the intense public scrutiny Urker faced.

‘He had to sleep with a gun every night,’ she said.

The Daily Mail reviewed text messages that Autumn said were written by her brother. In them, the father of one allegedly said he carried a weapon because of ‘death threats’ and after being ‘doxxed.’

Autumn stressed that Urker was not carrying a gun because he feared Blanchard would attack him. Instead, she said, he armed himself because of the persistent online abuse and threats from internet trolls.

She said the backlash intensified in recent weeks after prison phone calls between Urker and Blanchard were leaked. ‘He was quite humiliated with some of the phone calls that had come out,’ Autumn alleged.

The Daily Mail obtained logs for thousands of calls Blanchard made to Urker as well as other pen pals during her prison stint between 2016 and 2023. We also reviewed logs for calls she made once she was out of prison to Bird, who is currently still serving her own murder sentence.

In the aforementioned conversation which took place in September 2025, Blanchard confided in her incarcerated friend about an explosive fight between her and Urker.

‘I drank vodka, tequila, rum and whiskey,’ she said while explaining she had gone out to blow off steam after finding a romantic card that Urker allegedly wrote to his ex.

Once she returned to her and Urker’s house, Blanchard said on the call: ‘I go grab a knife in the kitchen, and I go to that headboard, and I stab the motherf**ing headboard and I carve “w***e” in the headboard.’

Urker was not home at the time so she said she left him a note that said ‘sleep with your “one and only,” G,’ adding: ‘I smashed a picture frame of us on the ground, glass went everywhere and all the prison letters that we wrote back and forth, I threw them up in the air like money.’ 

Continuing her path of destruction, Blanchard said she ‘took a pair of scissors’ and cut up a blanket, fired off angry texts and then ran off to her parents’ place while ‘drunk as f**k.’

The Daily Mail obtained video footage of Blanchard shouting expletives while shredding a blanket and recording herself. In the clip, she can be heard yelling through tears: ‘This is how I feel about you! Lies, lies, lies! …. F**k you!’

Blanchard told her incarcerated pal that once Urker arrived and saw what she had done, he told her: ‘I took pictures of you stabbing the headboard, and the broken glass… I’m filing for sole custody. You are not allowed around Aurora unsupervised.’ 

‘There are people close to me that are, like, “You scared the f**k out of him. You know what you were in prison for”… but because of my history, it freaks people out. Let’s just be real. It freaks people out,’ Blanchard admitted. 

On the call, she expressed regret for her disturbing actions, jealous tendencies – as she had often accused Urker of cheating in the past – and said she was attempting to get professional help but did not know where she and Urker stood.

Autumn told the Daily Mail that Blanchard and her brother reconciled after that volatile fight and that she didn’t personally learn about the headboard incident until February.

‘I did get nervous and I went off and I was like, “What are we going to do about this? Why are we ignoring it?” And my mom’s just like, “Oh, the cops said that there was nothing they could do,”‘ Autumn claimed. 

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The Daily Mail contacted the Lafourche Parish Sheriff’s Office, who are investigating Urker’s death. A public information officer said that while they are aware of the headboard incident, they do not have record of anyone reporting it to them last year. 

However, the officer also confirmed that if another jurisdiction had been contacted, charges would not be filed as no individuals were harmed, only personal property.

Autumn told the Daily Mail that when she approached her brother about Blanchard’s outburst, she warned him: ‘That’s dangerous, Kenan, and it’s going to escalate. That’s what her pattern is.’

‘And I was just worried about him,’ she added, claiming Urker brushed it off and said, ‘This is old’ – since nearly six months had gone by.

‘I just fell on deaf ears. I was the problem,’ she said.

Concerned over what may happen next, Autumn said she exposed Blanchard on social media, which only caused a bigger rift between her and her older brother.

However, when an anonymous blogger started to leak Blanchard’s prison calls online, Autumn said Urker finally started to pull away from the mother of his child.

She said they eventually split due to ‘a combination of things,’ including a disagreement over his dog Parker. She said Urker was just ‘fed up and overwhelmed.’

‘He said he was done, and then he started listening to [the prison] calls, and he was really done,’ Autumn claimed.

Though Urker decided to take some time apart from Blanchard amid all of their turmoil, he allegedly didn’t want to separate his ex from his daughter ‘in totality.’

‘He just wanted to keep custody so that he could keep her safe,’ Autumn claimed. ‘He just didn’t trust [Blanchard] to have [Aurora] by herself. He just didn’t trust her.’

Autumn claimed that her older brother confided in her and some friends about the stressful situation he was dealing with, but she does not believe that he reached a low enough point to ever consider ending his life.

She said when they spoke over the phone the night before his 34th birthday, hours before he died, he made plans to check in with loved ones the following day.

‘I told him that the kids were going to call him on FaceTime to wish him a happy birthday later and he’s like, “Alright, have them call me,”‘ Autumn said.

‘I don’t think he would ever do this to Aurora or my mother, and the family doesn’t think he did this on purpose, either.’

Autumn also denied that Urker struggled with substance abuse issues, though she recognized that he liked to drink alcohol on occasion and perhaps dabbled in drug use on a recreational basis.

‘Maybe he was in a down mood and he’s like, “I’m going to do this one time or this one day because it’s my birthday and to hell with it,” and maybe he either did something that … his body didn’t have this tolerance or he got ahold of something that was laced with fentanyl and obviously that would be an accident,’ she speculated.

A source, who was friends with both Urker and Blanchard, told the Daily Mail: ‘I do not believe he would ever take his own life. He loved Aurora too much.’

Urker’s body was found at his Louisiana home on October 1 with syringes, a spoon, a holstered handgun and a ‘brown powdery substance’ nearby, according to police. However, his official toxicology and autopsy report is still pending.

Autumn said that she and other family members are cooperating with the Lafourche Parish Sheriff’s Office’s active investigation into her brother’s death, which the Daily Mail confirmed via a public information officer is ongoing. 

Autumn claimed she was told that police said that ‘because of who [Blanchard] is, they’re not leaving any stone unturned. They’re going to check everything.’

Despite their ongoing feud, Autumn said she supports Blanchard’s petition to create ‘Kenan’s Law,’ which the Life After Lockup alum started in her late ex’s honor in an effort to end cyberbullying. 

‘I think it’s a beautiful idea,’ Autumn admitted before pointing out that she thinks ‘it’s a slap in the face for Gypsy to be the one doing it.’ She then bashed Blanchard’s decision to use Aurora’s pic in the petition, adding: ‘I’m just angry at her.’

In a tribute to Urker the day after he died, Blanchard wrote on Instagram: ‘You will always be my greatest love story. You will be remembered and loved forever.’

The Daily Mail has contacted representatives for Blanchard for comment. 

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