A man’s request concerning his wife’s acne treatment before his sister’s wedding has ignited a heated discussion online.

The 41-year-old man took to Reddit to share his appeal to his 43-year-old wife, who deals with cystic acne, asking her to avoid using “visible star-shaped pimple patches” at the forthcoming family event.

He mentioned that she is a teacher and frequently sports the pimple patches to her classes without makeup, aiming to make her students feel more at ease, which he finds admirable.

“First and foremost, I adore my wife. I believe she is a beautiful woman with stunning skin,” he stated in his detailed post.

He also noted that despite his request, his wife intends to wear the pimple patches at his sister’s wedding.

And while he insisted that he thinks she ‘looks cute wearing them,’ he doesn’t think his sister ‘would want one of her guests wearing very visible pimple patches’ on her big day.

In addition, he said their daughter, 13, recently started struggling with cystic acne herself and told him she didn’t want her mom wearing them to the wedding.

‘[My daughter] doesn’t want people there paying extra attention her mom’s acne since they may then pay extra attention to her acne as well,’ he explained.

A man revealed on Reddit that he asked his wife, who suffers from cystic acne, not wear visible pimple patches to his sister’s wedding, but she was upset by his request (stock image)

But when the man approached his wife about it, he said it led to tension between them. 

‘Without bringing up our daughter’s concerns since she didn’t [want] me to tell her mom this, I asked my wife to please do NOT wear very visible pimple patches to my [sister’s] wedding,’ he continued.

‘She got upset with me and is now questioning my previous statements when I had told her that she looks cute with them.

‘I had mentioned my concerns about how my sister may feel. I thought that would be enough but it wasn’t.’

He ended the post by asking the internet for their opinions on the matter, writing, ‘Am I the a**hole?’

His post went viral, and hoards of users rushed to the comment section to share their thoughts.

Many people seemed divided over what the man should do next, with some encouraging him to tell his wife about their daughter’s concerns and others advising against it.

‘I know you swore to secrecy with your daughter but it’s a big reason as to why your wife isn’t picking up what you’re throwing up,’ one person replied.

His post went viral, sparking a fierce debate about what he should do next and who was in the wrong (stock image)

‘Just know that if you tell your wife what your daughter said, your daughter is going to stop trusting you or confiding in you,’ another disagreed. 

‘Next time she’s struggling with something that’s hard and personal for her, she’s not going to talk to you about it because she won’t trust you not to tell anyone. And she clearly doesn’t feel like she can talk to her mom. So where will that leave her?’

Others suggested the woman use the more subtle, skin-colored pimple patches instead, and slammed her for wanting to wear them to a wedding in the first place.

‘This is ridiculous. As a mom of a teenager, I get what the daughter is saying. There’s a time and place for star patches and a WEDDING isn’t it,’ scathed one user.

‘There is a time and place for everything, a wedding isn’t the place,’ agreed another.

‘Does she seriously think that’s appropriate to wear at a wedding? The lack of self-awareness is appalling,’ read a different comment.

Another said: ‘Wearing visible pimple patches to a wedding is some serious main character behavior.’ 

‘I think pimple patches can be cute but that’s super tacky for a wedding,’ agreed someone else. 

On the other hand, some people supported his wife and encouraged her to wear them if it made her most comfortable.

‘Should we really be teaching our kids that their insecurities mean other people should modify how they dress or behave though?’ one user asked.

‘The real right answer is OP’s wife gets to decide whether to wear them or not, and OP and wife support their daughter in learning how to manage her anxiety/insecurity without asking other people to change how they manage theirs.’