A grieving 23-year-old woman has described her friend as “tone deaf” after receiving a series of texts asking her to do a “quick” favour, even though she had just revealed that her cousin had died.
The messages came from a friend who suspected her boyfriend might be cheating after noticing an unfamiliar number repeatedly appearing on his smartwatch.
“Girl, do you think you can call this number for me? I’m wearing my boyfriend’s watch and this number keeps popping up on WhatsApp,” the friend wrote.
“It has a contact name, but it says a man’s name and the way they’re talking sounds like it’s a girl, so I just wanna see who it is.
“You think you can do it and find out who it is?”
The request caught the woman off guard. She had just lost a family member and was with relatives awaiting the collection of her cousin’s body.
“Hi girl… Uhh yikes, I would, but my cousin just died and my family and I are all here waiting for her body to be picked up. Sorry,” she replied.
Her friend expressed shock and responded: “OMG, I’m so sorry for your loss.”
A grieving woman described her friend as “tone deaf” after being asked to do a “quick” favour despite revealing that her cousin had just died
The woman thanked her friend for the condolences before politely asking how she was doing.
Rather than offering further sympathy, however, her friend immediately returned to the issue and asked: “But can you call just for like 10 seconds and tell me who it sounds like? Please, it’ll be quick.”
Reluctantly, the woman agreed: “OK, I guess.”
A short time later, she confirmed: “The person who answered was a female.”
Her friend appeared to become increasingly anxious, asking: “Ughh bro, do you know who it was or who it sounded like?”
The woman replied: “Girl, IDK (I don’t know). I hung up right away, plus your man and I don’t have any mutuals, so I wouldn’t know. Sorry, but I’ll talk to you later.”
Her friend then asked another favour: “Can you check if they have a pic on WhatsApp?”
The grieving woman answered: “I can’t, sorry.”
Still, her friend continued to press her, writing: “Please, real quick, or LMK (let me know) when you can.”
The messages did not stop there.
“I just called, but they didn’t pick up,” her friend continued.
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‘What did she say when she picked up??’
The text caught the woman off guard as she had just lost a family member. She ended up blocking her friend after these final text messages
The woman shared the awkward text exchange, explaining that she ended up blocking her friend after these final text messages.
‘Texts speak for themselves,’ she said.
‘This happened a while ago when we were 23, but I randomly remembered it and wanted to share because I’m pretty sure this is a unique experience.
‘I know I shouldn’t have called. If it was today I would’ve blocked automatically after the fourth text she sent.’
As she was grieving the loss of her cousin, she ended up blocking her friend on everything, including her email address, work number and even her mum.
Sharing more context about her cousin’s condition, she explained: ‘My cousin was on hospice. She had an energy surge the day prior so we should’ve known, but we thought it was a good sign.’
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Speaking about her now-former friend, she said they shared a mutual friend who eventually had to cut her off because she only ever contacted her when she needed a favour.
‘She basically would do the same to me,’ she said.
‘When we first started getting close, she wanted me to cyber stalk her ex to the point where I had to give her the passwords to my social media so she could leave me alone. Mind you we are all adults.
‘Needless to say the friendship was very short lived. I gave her three chances. I let her step all over me – that’s on me. But she is a little bonkers. I’ve never met anyone like her in my life.’
She asked the internet whether she was ‘overreacting’ after blocking her friend.
Her post was met with more than 150 comments, with one suggesting: ‘She really pulled out a “damn that’s crazy… Anyways” on you. Ditch her ASAP.’
‘The “damn that’s crazy… anyway” energy would’ve been bad enough on its own, but immediately pivoting back to trying to identify a random woman’s voice while you were dealing with a family emergency is another level of tone-deaf. Blocking her was the right call,’ another shared.
‘”Sorry for your loss BUT” means your feelings and emotions are being shoved aside for theirs. She needs to keep her toxic relationship to themselves,’ one revealed.
‘Exactly, that “sorry for your loss, BUT” came with a bulldozer attached. Grief is not the time to demand customer support from the person grieving,’ another added.